Boundaries & Communication
Effective communication and clear boundaries are the foundation of successful lavender marriages. This page provides frameworks for maintaining healthy relationship dynamics.
Types of Boundaries
Physical Boundaries
- Personal space and privacy
- Separate bedrooms/bathrooms
- Physical touch comfort levels
- Public displays of affection limits
Emotional Boundaries
- Level of emotional intimacy
- What you share vs. keep private
- Emotional labor expectations
- Support during difficult times
Time Boundaries
- Time together vs. apart
- Social obligations attendance
- Overnight absences notification
- Schedule coordination
Financial Boundaries
- Spending limits requiring consultation
- Individual financial autonomy
- Shared expense management
- Financial transparency requirements
Communication Frameworks
Regular Check-Ins
- Weekly: Brief household/schedule updates
- Monthly: Deeper discussion of how arrangement is working
- Quarterly: Review agreements and adjust as needed
- Annually: Major reassessment and long-term planning
Conflict Resolution Strategies
- ✓ Address issues promptly before they escalate
- ✓ Use "I" statements instead of blame
- ✓ Focus on the issue, not the person
- ✓ Seek to understand before being understood
- ✓ Consider mediation if conflicts persist