How to Use This Site Safely
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Quick Exit Button
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Privacy Basics
Use Private Browsing
Enable incognito/private mode so your visit isn't saved to your browser history.
- Chrome: Ctrl+Shift+N · Cmd+Shift+N (Mac)
- Firefox: Ctrl+Shift+P · Cmd+Shift+P (Mac)
- Safari: Cmd+Shift+N (Mac)
Clear Your History
If you forget to use private mode, clear your browser history, cookies, and cache — especially on a shared device.
Use a VPN
A Virtual Private Network encrypts your internet traffic and hides your location from your internet provider and others on your network. Particularly important if you're in a country where visiting LGBTQ+ resources carries risk.
Device Security
- Lock your devices with a password or biometrics
- Don't save passwords on shared or family devices
- Log out of accounts when you're finished
- Use a trusted, secure Wi-Fi connection
- Keep your operating system and browser updated
If You Are in Immediate Danger
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