Exit Strategies & Dissolution
Even in long-term lavender marriages, planning for potential ending is essential. Having a clear exit strategy protects both partners and makes dissolution smoother if it becomes necessary.
Why Exit Planning Matters
- ✓ Circumstances change (job, family, personal needs)
- ✓ One partner may want to marry romantic partner
- ✓ Arrangement may become unsustainable
- ✓ Having a plan reduces stress if exit needed
- ✓ Protects both partners financially and legally
Common Dissolution Triggers
Planned Triggers
- Death of family member you were protecting
- Career change eliminating professional need
- Completion of immigration process
- Children reach certain age
- Pre-agreed time period expires
Unplanned Triggers
- One partner wants to marry romantic partner
- Serious conflict making arrangement untenable
- Safety concerns or abuse
- Major life change for one partner
- Mutual agreement it's no longer needed
Divorce Process Basics
Legal Requirements
- Understand divorce laws in your jurisdiction
- Residency requirements may apply
- Waiting periods vary by location
- Prenup should simplify property division
- Both parties should have legal representation
Minimizing Complications
- ✓ Prenup in place: Should make divorce straightforward
- ✓ No fault divorce: Usually simplest route
- ✓ Mediation: Can avoid costly litigation
- ✓ Clear documentation: Keep records of agreements
- ✓ Respectful communication: Maintain civility throughout
Next Steps
Plan for the best, prepare for all possibilities. Last updated: January 2025