Media & Creators
A curated list of social media creators, educators, and content discussing lavender marriages, LGBTQ+ relationships, and related topics. This page is regularly updated as new creators emerge.
About This Resource
Lavender marriages are experiencing renewed discussion on social media, particularly on TikTok. While dedicated content creators focused solely on lavender marriages are still emerging, many LGBTQ+ educators and historians discuss the topic as part of broader queer history and contemporary relationships.
Note: Inclusion on this list doesn't necessarily mean endorsement. We aim to provide a comprehensive view of the conversation happening across platforms.
TikTok Creators
TikTok has become the primary platform for modern discussions about lavender marriages, with the topic trending in 2024-2025.
Robbie Scott
Queer TikToker
One of the first creators to kick off the modern lavender marriage trend in September 2024, announcing "applications were now open" to be his lavender marriage partner. His content sparked widespread conversation about the concept.
Platform: TikTok
AJ Dronkers
Content Creator & Advocate
Created videos advocating for lavender marriages as a valid relationship choice, focusing on the practical and companionship aspects rather than just historical context.
Platform: TikTok
Mr Williams
@mrwilliamsprek
Educational content exploring the concept of lavender marriages, their history, and modern applications.
Platform: TikTok
Instagram Educators
While Instagram doesn't have as many creators specifically focused on lavender marriages, these LGBTQ+ educators and historians occasionally discuss the topic as part of queer history:
McMarty Fly
@itsmcmartyfly
Content creator discussing LGBTQ+ topics, relationships, and modern perspectives on queer culture.
View on Instagram →Mr Williams
@mrwilliamsprek
Educational content exploring the concept of lavender marriages, their history, and modern applications. Also active on TikTok.
View on Instagram →AJ Dronkers
@aj_dc
Content creator and advocate for lavender marriages as a valid relationship choice, focusing on the practical and companionship aspects. Also active on TikTok.
View on Instagram →Finding More LGBTQ+ Educators
Many LGBTQ+ educators on Instagram discuss queer history, relationships, and contemporary issues that may include lavender marriages:
- Search hashtags: #QueerHistory, #LGBTQEducation, #LavenderMarriage
- Look for historians specializing in LGBTQ+ culture
- Follow LGBTQ+ relationship therapists and counselors
- Check accounts focused on alternative relationship structures
This section is actively being updated
We're currently researching more Instagram creators who discuss lavender marriages. If you know of creators who should be included, please let us know through our feedback page.
Reddit Communities
Reddit hosts some of the most active discussions about lavender marriages. There is no dedicated r/lavendermarriage subreddit, but the topic is regularly discussed across these communities:
LGBTQ+ Communities
r/lgbt
1M+ members
Reddit's largest LGBTQ+ community. Lavender marriage topics surface regularly, especially around the modern Gen Z revival of the concept.
r/bisexual
560K+ members
One of Reddit's largest identity-specific LGBTQ+ communities. Mixed-orientation partnerships and lavender marriages are core topics here.
r/actuallesbians
495K+ members
Primary lesbian community on Reddit. Discussions about platonic partnerships and historical same-sex arrangements are common.
r/gaybros
407K+ members
Community for gay men with broad discussion of LGBTQ+ history, relationships, and lived experiences.
r/asexuality
210K+ members
Asexual individuals are among the most active voices in modern lavender marriage discussions. This community frequently covers platonic marriage and queerplatonic partnerships.
r/aromantic
97K+ members
The aromantic community frequently discusses queerplatonic relationships and platonic legal partnerships — closely related to modern lavender marriage concepts.
r/ainbow
176K+ members
A welcoming umbrella LGBTQ+ community covering gender, sexuality, relationships, and identity.
Alternative Relationship Communities
r/polyamory
343K+ members
Focused on ethical non-monogamy and multiple committed relationships. Useful for those exploring non-traditional relationship structures.
Visit r/polyamory →r/nonmonogamy
141K+ members
Broader hub for all forms of ethical non-monogamy. Lavender marriage as a non-traditional arrangement is discussed here.
Visit r/nonmonogamy →YouTube Content
Long-form video content about lavender marriages is limited — TikTok is where most of the active conversation happens. However, these are worth watching for historical context:
The Lavender Scare (PBS Documentary)
PBS | 2019 | Director: Josh Howard
Documents the mass firing of LGBTQ+ federal employees in the 1950s — a pivotal piece of queer history directly intertwined with lavender marriages and the survival strategies of that era. Rated 7.7/10 on IMDb.
Watch on PBS →Recommended Search Terms
For broader context, these search terms surface relevant historical content on YouTube:
- "Lavender marriages in Hollywood history"
- "LGBTQ+ marriages of convenience"
- "Queer history Hollywood golden age"
- "The Lavender Scare documentary"
Podcasts
Podcasts Discussing Lavender Marriages
Several podcasts have featured episodes about lavender marriages, typically within broader discussions of LGBTQ+ history or relationships:
- Look for LGBTQ+ history podcasts
- Search for episodes about Hollywood's golden age
- Check relationship and sexuality podcasts
- Listen to queer culture commentary shows
Curated list in development
We're researching specific podcast episodes. Suggestions welcome via our feedback page.
Notable Public Figures
Some public figures have discussed or expressed interest in lavender marriages:
Khloé Kardashian
Reality TV Star & Entrepreneur
In February 2025, Khloé Kardashian commented on a video advocating for the return of lavender marriages, showing mainstream interest in the concept and bringing the conversation to a wider audience.
Platform: Instagram
Modern Trends & Context
Why Lavender Marriages Are Trending Again
Gen Z's Perspective
Modern interest in lavender marriages focuses less on hiding sexuality and more on:
- Financial security and stability
- Stable companionship without romantic expectations
- Practical benefits of marriage (healthcare, tax benefits)
- Building chosen family structures
LGBTQ+ Rights Concerns
Some of the renewed interest stems from anxieties about:
- Potential rollbacks of LGBTQ+ rights
- Safety concerns in certain regions
- Queer censorship on social media platforms
- Economic uncertainty
Platform Differences
- TikTok: Trending topic, viral discussions, personal stories
- Instagram: Educational content about queer history
- YouTube: Longer documentaries and historical analysis
- Twitter/X: News and commentary about the trend
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Help Us Build This Resource
This is a new and evolving space. If you know of creators, educators, or content about lavender marriages that should be included here, we'd love to hear from you.
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- Creator name and username/handle
- Platform (TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, etc.)
- Brief description of their content
- Why you think they should be included
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Content Guidelines
What We Look For
✓ Included:
- Educational content about lavender marriages
- Historical context and queer history
- Personal stories and experiences
- Discussions about modern applications
- LGBTQ+ relationship educators
- Respectful exploration of the topic
✗ Not Included:
- Content that promotes conversion therapy
- Creators who mock or demean LGBTQ+ individuals
- Misinformation about LGBTQ+ rights or safety
- Content that encourages harmful relationship dynamics
- Accounts primarily focused on other topics
Related Resources
This page is regularly updated as new creators and content emerge. Last updated: January 2025