================================================================ LAVENDER MARRIAGE — SAFETY PLANNING CHECKLIST ================================================================ 2lavenders.com | For personal use only If you are in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. ================================================================ This checklist is for people who live in or may travel to countries or regions where LGBTQ+ identities face legal risk, social persecution, or violence. It also covers digital safety for all users. Work through each section and mark: ✓ Done / → In progress / □ To do ---------------------------------------------------------------- SECTION 1 — RISK ASSESSMENT ---------------------------------------------------------------- [ ] I have researched the legal status of same-sex relationships in my country/region. Current status: ____________________________________ Source checked: ____________________________________ [ ] I understand the specific risks (imprisonment, fines, violence, loss of employment, family rejection) [ ] I have assessed the risk level in my specific local community (city vs. rural, workplace, family environment) [ ] I have identified trusted people in my life who know my full situation [ ] I know the local emergency contacts: Police: ____________________________________ Crisis line: ____________________________________ LGBTQ+ org: ____________________________________ Trusted friend: ____________________________________ ---------------------------------------------------------------- SECTION 2 — DOCUMENT SECURITY ---------------------------------------------------------------- [ ] I have copies of all important documents stored securely: □ Passport / national ID □ Birth certificate □ Marriage certificate (if applicable) □ Financial documents (bank statements, property deeds) □ Medical records □ Visa / immigration documents □ Insurance policies [ ] Copies are stored in a secure location OUTSIDE my home (trusted person, secure cloud storage, safe deposit box) [ ] I know where my original documents are and can access them quickly if I need to leave suddenly [ ] I have documented my partner arrangement (any written agreements) in a way that is legally safe in my jurisdiction ---------------------------------------------------------------- SECTION 3 — DIGITAL SECURITY ---------------------------------------------------------------- ACCOUNTS & PASSWORDS [ ] I use strong, unique passwords for all accounts [ ] I use a reputable password manager [ ] I have enabled two-factor authentication on key accounts (email, social media, banking) [ ] My phone is protected by a strong PIN or biometric lock [ ] I know how to quickly delete apps or accounts if needed COMMUNICATIONS [ ] I use end-to-end encrypted messaging for sensitive conversations (Signal, WhatsApp, iMessage) [ ] I understand that regular SMS/text is not encrypted [ ] I have a secondary email address for LGBTQ+ related accounts not linked to my primary identity [ ] I am aware of who can see my location data (phone location sharing, fitness trackers) SOCIAL MEDIA [ ] I have reviewed my privacy settings on all platforms [ ] I have considered who can see photos that could reveal my identity or activities [ ] I understand that content shared publicly can be screenshotted and preserved even after deletion [ ] I know how to quickly lock down or deactivate accounts if necessary DEVICES [ ] I know how to quickly clear browser history and app data if needed [ ] I understand what data is backed up to the cloud and who could access it [ ] I have considered whether my employer has any access to my work devices ---------------------------------------------------------------- SECTION 4 — FINANCIAL SAFETY ---------------------------------------------------------------- [ ] I have access to funds that are mine alone and cannot be frozen or accessed by a partner or family member without my consent [ ] I have an emergency fund accessible to me personally: Target amount: ____________________________________ [ ] I have not become financially dependent in a way that would trap me if I needed to leave an unsafe situation [ ] I understand my financial rights in my jurisdiction if the marriage ends under duress [ ] I have reviewed whether my banking or financial accounts reveal location or activity I need to protect ---------------------------------------------------------------- SECTION 5 — EMERGENCY PLANNING ---------------------------------------------------------------- [ ] A trusted person outside my immediate household knows where I am on a regular basis [ ] I have a code word or signal I can send to a trusted person if I need help [ ] I have a plan for where I would go if I needed to leave my home quickly: Location 1: ____________________________________ Location 2 (backup): ___________________________ [ ] I know the nearest LGBTQ+ shelter or safe house (if applicable in my area): Name / address: ________________________________ [ ] I have researched international support organisations if I need to leave my country: Rainbow Railroad: www.rainbowrailroad.org UNHCR: www.unhcr.org/lgbtq ORAM: www.oraminternational.org ILGA World: www.ilga.org [ ] I know the asylum process in at least one potential destination country (if applicable) [ ] I have a go-bag prepared with essentials if I need to leave quickly: □ Documents (copies) □ Cash □ Medication □ Phone charger □ Change of clothes □ Emergency contact list (written, not just in phone) ---------------------------------------------------------------- SECTION 6 — WITHIN THE ARRANGEMENT ---------------------------------------------------------------- [ ] My lavender marriage partner knows my safety concerns and respects them [ ] We have agreed on what information will and won't be shared with family members [ ] We have a shared understanding of what to do if either partner's safety is threatened [ ] I trust my partner not to disclose my identity or the nature of our arrangement without my consent [ ] I have not put myself in financial dependency on my partner in a way that would be unsafe if the arrangement ended badly [ ] We have discussed what would happen if one of us were detained or arrested ---------------------------------------------------------------- SUPPORT ORGANISATIONS ---------------------------------------------------------------- Rainbow Railroad (international evacuation support): www.rainbowrailroad.org ILGA World (global LGBTQ+ rights info by country): www.ilga.org UNHCR LGBTQ+ Asylum Resources: www.unhcr.org/lgbtq ORAM (Organisation for Refuge, Asylum & Migration): www.oraminternational.org Crisis Text Line (US): Text HOME to 741741 Switchboard LGBT+ Helpline (UK): 0800 0119 100 QLife (Australia): 1800 184 527 ---------------------------------------------------------------- REVIEW DATE ---------------------------------------------------------------- Last reviewed: ____________ Next review scheduled: ____________ Reviewed with (if applicable): ____________ ================================================================ 2lavenders.com — Not legal advice. In immediate danger? Call emergency services. ================================================================